Finding The Right Person
Tuesday, February 13th, 2007Somebody once told me that,
Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong..
It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there..
You’ll always end up dissapointed when you set standard,
and define a "Right Person" for you, and don’t rush things..
Coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you..
You can never be perfect.., the person you love can never be perfect..
But both of you can be perfect through love and prayers,
and your love can be perfect through both of you.
But, no relationship is complete without God..
That’s why we have marriage.
It’s a bond not only between you and your loved one, but also with God.
If a relationship fail not because He/She is not the right person.
It’s because we expected too much and we decided on our own.
Let God do the work, you may call it waiting time..
but while you are waiting, pray..!
Let God guide you always, He knows the best.
Love is not what you think it is. Sometimes we mistakenly feel
that our first relationship be our last.
Because we overwhelmed with joy and romance,
we forget to learn the meaning of true love.
Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying
oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life.
Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined.
When we think we’re in love,
the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know,
is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us.
We say this phrase,
"You are the most wonderful gift from God, I have ever received.."
After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel, we then say,
"You are the biggest mistake I’ve ever made in my entire life..!!!".
Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E..?
Are you really deeply into it?
Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right
into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like,
"Forever, till death do us part, etc.."
Would end up,
"Never, we should part ways, I’m no longer happy with you..!, my love for you
is dead..!!".
Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust to
one another freezes down to zero degree,
"He/She ain’t the right one. I should probably wait for the right to come".
But the big question anyone could not answer is,
"Is He/She the right one..?" and "When is the right time..?"
That made us stick to whom we are with.
Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time
to commit?
A big YES is the answer.
Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love
if you insist that you are already into it.
Try to find time to really understand your real feelings,
to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.
You’re right, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship,
but there’s a compatible partnership that goes along with it.
It’s really hard to say goodbye though, but you can’t make it any better
by just pretending you still have the same feelings.
Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest.
Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention.
Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all
by yourself.
We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying
as we try to let go. We are wrong.. it’s just pity.
We call it love when we’re too attached and think that losing the one we love
will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life.
We misunderstood, it’s just that we’re too much dependent to them.
We call it love when we give our whole life to them,
the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave,
no one would accept us and our past.
We are mistaken, it’s just insecurity.
But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains
that love isn’t something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing.
You can’t touch it but you can feel it in your heart.
You can’t find it but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.
It can make you the happiest soul in heaven,
but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the
whole galaxy……
Dedicated to you love, and my BD’s friends…
Once again, Happy Valentine’s Day 2007
Jogjakarta, February 14th, 2007/ 03:17
